Right after struggling with a deeply upsetting household situation, Redditor u/dontwatchgrassgrow took to the site’s “Am I the A**gap” discussion board on Tuesday to get the community’s input.
In a submit that has amassed practically 10,000 upvotes and about 1,200 responses, the Redditor starts by detailing that they’re “the products of an affair.” Their father cheated on his spouse with the Redditor’s mother, which led to her pregnancy.
As u/dontwatchgrassgrow wrote in the put up, their father’s wife forgave him for his affair and the two remained married. Nevertheless, their reconciliation was on the situation that “she and their young children under no circumstances have to see … or listen to about [the Redditor], and he could not see [their] mom.”
“Even so, my dad was concerned in my lifestyle right up till he died, and we have been very shut,” u/dontwatchgrassgrow wrote. “Just after he died I contacted some of his relatives customers (not his spouse or little ones, I failed to want to upset them) to question if it would be alright for me to go to the funeral, and I just failed to get any replies.”
Because they never obtained a response, and simply because they experienced by no means fulfilled their father’s spouse or any of his household, u/dontwatchgrassgrow made the decision to show up at the funeral. They reported they prepared to “quietly be at the back again and not hassle any person.”
Items, nevertheless, shortly went awry.
“Turns out his wife did understand me (I do not know how) and she interrupted the support to drag me out of the developing and yell at me for getting there,” wrote the Redditor.
As u/dontwatchgrassgrow to go away, the widow followed them to their mom’s automobile and reportedly yelled at her as perfectly.
“Now I’m embarrassed and guilty that I upset her and caused drama at the funeral and dragged my mom into it,” wrote u/dontwatchgrassgrow. “My mom states I did not do anything at all improper [because] I could not [have] recognized my dad’s wife would know what I search like, but I am not confident if she’s just trying to make me come to feel far better.”
They concluded: “I just required to say bye to my father, I wasn’t making an attempt to trigger any trouble. AITA?”
Overwhelmingly, commenters offered u/dontwatchgrassgrow their assistance.
“You have as a lot proper to say goodbye to your father as his other family members users did,” wrote u/ItchyDoggg.
“It is not your fault he cheated on his spouse ensuing in you currently being born,” pointed out u/ExtremePotatoFanatic. “It would not subject that she is grieving, what she did was destructive and interest trying to get. She could’ve just permit you sit in the back again silently and disregarded you but she selected to induce a scene.”
Other folks, when nevertheless voicing assist for u/dontwatchgrassgrow, also acknowledged that the condition will have to have been unbelievably hard for the widow.
“I get that you want to say superior